Book Information

by
Beverly Engel

Critical Acclaim

While forgiveness has become a ubiquitous theme in spirituality, recovery and New Age philosophy, the element of apology has become conspicuously absent.  Engel (The Emotionally Abused Woman), a longtime therapist, takes it up as “a cause,” claiming that this healing practice can prevent divorces, family estrangements, lawsuits, and even atrocities like school shooting.  Giving and receiving apologies for mistakes, oversights or offenses—which many people avoid, sometimes for legal reasons—are “crucial to our mental and physical health and well-being,” she asserts.  Failing to admit error and express regret “adds insult to injury” and “is one of the most blatant ways of showing disrespect,” she says.  Engel provides detailed information on how to make “meaningful apologies…that will be heard and believed,” made up of the “three R’s: regret, responsibility, and remedy.”  She is also unusually conscious of the gray areas, where apologizing or forgiving may be inappropriate or impossible, and where “overapologizing” may reflect low self-esteem.  A particularly fresh and useful chapter on the workplace offers excellent practical advice for responding to unhappy clients, customers, co-workers, employers and employees.  Unfortunately, Engel devotes little attention to the difficult task of asking for apologies, after declaring that “it is your responsibility” to do so when feeling injured.  Her otherwise thoughtful and lucid guide to “this important but neglected aspect of forgiveness” will be welcomed by many who have struggled to ask forgiveness and to forgive. (Aug. 24)

"Beverly Engel has indeed eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. This book is a wise contribution to the ever-growing literature on forgiveness and reconciliation. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation."

Rabbi Charles A. Klein
Author, How To Forgive When You Can't Forget

"An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships."

Steven Farmer, M.F.T.
Author, Adult Children of Abusive Parents

"In The Power of Apology author Beverly Engel looks through the eyes of both giver and receiver. She touts the benefits of this restorative process but cautions against potential pitfalls, such as self-blame and unreasonable expectations of forgiveness. She provides practical, thoughtful advice on how our everyday use of apology can transform our lives for the better."

Ted Wachtel
Founder, Real Justice, a Restorative Justice Organization
Co-author, Toughlove

"Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repair relationships with others, and with themselves."

Jeanne Safer, Ph.D
Author, Forgiving and Not Forgiving

"Apology is one of the most healing interpersonal social interactions. In The Power of Apology, Beverly Engel provides compelling evidence that not only can apology heal personal relationships but that if has the potential to transform families, communities, and this global village in which we live."

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